are you sure your getting down to the pin then on 86? the metal part because if you pull that relay and the blower stops then a ground would need to be present on pin 86 to make the relay close. use a paper clip or something to get down there to the metal.

 

I tried a paper clip like you suggested and still got OL. The only one that shows numbers is pin 87.

 

Update: so I have still been unplugging and plugging back in the relay to turn it on and off when needed but today it seems like the connection to the relay is loose now. Like I have to wiggle the relay and find the right spot to get it to turn on now but when I close the lid to the fuse box it moves it and shuts off again so it's basically useless now and just went up on my priority list drastically

 

tell me what your missing when i give you this info.
Pin 87 no power only ground yes or no
pin 30 power all the time
pin 85 power all the time
pin 86 ground only when key on and blower motor on.

Were all the parts you put on new or used?